Archive for October, 2010

Your Online Dating Profile

Tuesday, October 26th, 2010

The truth about your online dating profile

It is easy to get carried away when it comes to creating a profile for your online dating site. You want your photos to be picture perfect and your “About Me” box to be absolutely titillating. There is nothing wrong with setting your own profile standards high but let’s face it, there will be things about yourself that you might hate that other people may like and that is what you need to remember.

Who cares if your profile picture isn’t a supermodel style pose and you have a slight tummy and hair out of place? The things that you may pinpoint in these pictures may seem like bad things to you but to someone else could be quite endearing. For the girls out there, beautiful women mean high maintenance and although these girls may be Ok for the guys to sleep with, someone down the line they want something or someone slightly easier to please! Be yourself in your profile picture and if you want to put a wacky picture up of you slightly drunk at your last birthday, just do it. At least the people looking at your photo will know that you know how to have fun!

Another tip that you will very often read about creating profiles for online dating is not to reveal too much but not to say too little. This can make life very confusing and for the most part, people looking at your profile will only glance over it before deciding whether or not they want to send you a message. Something direct and to the point is much easier for other people to manage than a long rambling essay that no one will probably read anyway!

Dating Hairstyles For Men

Friday, October 15th, 2010

So you’ve asked out that girl that you’ve been eying for weeks, even months.  Finally got up the courage and now you have a date with the most beautiful girl you’ve ever seen.  Naturally, you want to put your best foot forward.  You been planning this perfect date for ages so you know exactly what you are going to do.  You are going to pick her up  on your scooter, take her to a Mongolian Barbecue, and then use your Google app  on your phone to show her constellations in the sky.  It’s perfect.  You have you favorite t-shirt with the picture of the Rambo  T-Rex just waiting in your closet for this special occasion.  You have planned out everything except for one crucial element… your hair!  You’ve been so used to wearing a baseball cap every single day of your life that you forget that this is a date that you might want to get ready for. Here are some different hair styles for men that can either make or break your date.

Feaux hawk.  This is a date killer.  Unless you are going to a UFC fight and your name is Brock Lesnar, then don’t opt for the Feaux hawk.  It’s outdated and it looks just plain terrible.  This is for the high school kids that are trying to look tough and are still bleaching their hair.

Flip in the front.  Not a bad choice, but still a little outdated.  A lot of guys will flip their hair up in the front to give it some sort of style, only because they don’t know what else to do.  While this isn’t the most impressive hairdo, it will usually pass in most girl’s eyes.

Messy, but done up.  Girls love this.  They want a rough and tough guy who doesn’t seem to care too much about his appearance but still manages to pull it off and look great.  If you can pull off the messy look then you are in business.

Dating Vs. Hanging Out

Friday, October 15th, 2010

If you are young and single then you have probable heard both the term “dating” as well as the term “hanging out”.  While many people consider them to be the same thing, they actually do have some distinct differences.  Here is a simple article to help you see the differences and what you can do to make your relationship more meaningful.

Let me pose a situation to you and see if it sounds familiar.  You get invited to a party by some friends and once there you find that there are a lot of really cool people there.  You and your buddies are stoked about all of the potential cute girls that are there so you start making the rounds.  By the time the party is over you have a ton of new phone numbers.  Through the course of the week you invite these different groups of girls to come over and spend some time to get to know you all better.  The girls come over and you have a ton of fun.  You start to kind of like one of the girls in the group and whenever that entire group comes over you kind of start to pair off.    The relationship starts getting physical, but the only time you really see this girl is when her and all of her friends come over to hang out.  While you have seen the beginnings of a potential relationship, it is still just hanging out.  You will never be able to properly move it into a healthy relationship stage until you start taking her out on dates.

Dating is the act of calling a girl up, reserving her for a night, and giving her your best for an entire night.  It shows her that you have legitimate interest and that she is not just some booty call.  It also shows that you respect her and could see it going somewhere serious.  Once you start realizing the differences between dating and hanging out you can better start courting the girls you are really interested in.

How To Ensure A Good Date

Friday, October 15th, 2010

Some people have innate fears of dating and feel like they they are awkward when they get put into a potentially romantic situation.  If you feel this way sometimes then don’t get discouraged, it is very common. Many people have trouble being themselves when they have the added pressure of trying to impress someone that they could potentially date and marry.  There are a few things you can do, however, to help make sure that all of your dates are positive experiences.

The first thing you need to do is to not put too much pressure on yourself.  You may think that the person you are going out with is the love of your life and if you don’t make it work then you will never actually be happy in your love life.  This is just plain false.  There are a lot of people that you are compatible with and that could potentially make you very happy so don’t put the added stress of feeling like you can’t blow it.  If you can reduce the pressure on your shoulders then it will help you to have more confidence to just be yourself on the date.

The second major tip to having a good date is to smile a lot!  People love being around other people who are happy.  Even if you aren’t totally sure if you are interested in the other person, you can avoid a lot of potentially awkward situations by just learning to smile and help the other person relax.  Try to have a good time no matter what the situation or the activity.  If you aren’t interested in your date then you can still smile and be happy without leading the other person on.

Lastly,  try to add to the conversation.  No matter if you are intimidated or not that interested, it still is polite to add to the conversation so that the night still runs smoothly.

Online Dating Polite Rejection

Thursday, October 14th, 2010

Online dating and polite rejection

It is never a nice thing to have to do but rejection is something that you are going to have to come to terms with when you start your quest with online dating to find a potential new partner. There will be people talking to you and asking you for dates that you might not like the look of or having nothing in common with and although rejection might sound like a nasty word, there are ways in which you can politely say no without having to hurt anyone’s feelings.

You will find that most online dating sites will have a section on the message or email board when you can politely decline an invitation but although this might sound like an easy way out, it is best to avoid using these and opt for sending a personally written message stating why you are going to have to decline. Just think of how hurt that you would feel if someone sent you a pre-saved rejection notice on the site – it would leave you feeling as if you were not even worth the time to write a message for so don’t make others feel like this.

It is always best to send a reply rather than ignore the message or invitation completely. Ignoring it will just make you come across as very rude and could give you a bad name with other potential daters on the site. No one wants to be known as the “ignorer” so always send a polite message clearly stating that you are not interested and the reasons why. Without this, it might just sound as if you are playing hard to get and could still be hounded.