Archive for November, 2010

Online Date Safe

Saturday, November 27th, 2010

Online dating in these days can be quite the event.  People will do anything to get a girl to show some interest, and sometimes those ideas can backfire.  There are endless ways to meet people, if that is your goal, and online dating is a whole other world to add to the mix.  However, in online dating, there are a few elements that differ from any other way of meeting people.  It is important to be aware of the pros and cons, and make any opportunity for an online date safe for you.

Let’s face it—with online dating, you don’t really know what you are dealing with–or whom, for that matter.  Although even in “real life,” situations may occur that make you realize that the person you are dating is not the person you initially imagined, online dating provides less physical contact, which makes it a little harder to determine the true nature of a person you are talking to.  However, it is based on communication, which may be a weak point in normal, outside of the internet-dating.  With this in mind, you can make your online date safe.  Keep in mind that it is by communicating that you are going to get to know each other—watch for any type of red flag that shows up in your correspondence with someone else.

Be aware that there are people out there who really are looking to fool or deceive you.  Your personal information, including credit card numbers and other things like that, should be kept confidential, in almost any case.  There is a possibility, however small, that you might become the victim of an online con man or thief.  Online date safe—and guard personal things such as this, so as to avoid problems in the future.

Be safe, and smart about the decisions that you make.  There are many good things available out there on the internet, but with every good thing, there is bound to be a bad one.  Keep your wits about you, and do your online dating as safely as possible.

Online Dating Tips

Thursday, November 11th, 2010

Dating is a crazy world—sometimes referred to as a sport, or a battlefield, depending on your past experience and level of success.  You have to go into it prepared for a number of things, and open to others.  If you are deciding whether or not to jump into the online dating pool, here are a few tips to consider so that you can find that perfect fish to show off to your friends. 

The first of the online dating tips for the day:  Just remember that there are hundreds upon hundreds of people out there who are just like you—looking for someone that will “click” with their personalities, and bring a higher level of joy and satisfaction to their lives.  The thing about online dating, however, is that these people can be found anywhere from the apartment below you, to some place completely on the other side of the world.  When you begin your time in the virtual dating world, sift through some of the dating websites and chat rooms, and find something that looks promising.  There will be many options available, from young single ladies, to older, religious adults.  Almost anything you can think of can be found, if you look.

In joining a certain website, you will be virtually jumping into a specific pool of possibility.  Most often, the site will ask you to fill out a profile so that your name can be put on the menu.  Online dating tips number 2:  be honest.  Present yourself well by putting interesting facts, but avoiding the appearance of being “too desperate” or “too good to be true.”  Include things that make you look good, but that you can be honest about in the long run.  The people looking at you will want to find the person presented in your profile.

Ask your friends about other online dating tips that helped them—or just jump in, and see how the water is.  Online dating is a whole other world—one that is just begging to be discovered.

Disclosing Difficult Details in Dating

Tuesday, November 9th, 2010

When you meet someone and fall in love, there is a progression of communication and information that flows between the two of you.  At first, everything is blissful and superficial.  You are both a bit mysterious to each other and you only ask deep questions when the time seems right.  As you continue to date you will find that you get over the formal questions pretty quick and all that is left are the unique things that shape who you are.  There are other details about your past and your family that should eventually come out in order to establish an honest and open relationship.  One of the big things that you will eventually have to talk about is that of your family.

While telling your significant other the names of your family members and how many siblings you have may not be a hard task, telling them family issues may not be as easy.  For instance, if your family was involved in an investment scam  and they are going through a bankruptcy and losing their house,  you may not just pop that out over casual conversation.  It is something personal and may be hard to talk about because you care about the people that are involved.  Just remember that the person you are dating legitimately cares about you and can help you to deal with the issues at hand.

Another thing that might be hard to explain is that of mental illness in the family.    You might want to prep your companion before you actually go visit your family so that they know what to expect. Try to look at your family through a stranger’s eyes and see what they might see when coming in.  Also, if there have been any deaths in your immediate family then you should definitely let your significant other know about it before they go to meet your family and ask some innocently awkward questions.  All of these things can help when you are disclosing difficult details about your family.

Introducing Your Date To Your Family

Tuesday, November 9th, 2010

So you set up an online profile and gave the internet Gods a chance to set you up with the perfect match.  Surprisingly enough, it worked and you started dating a wonderful girl who could end up being your Mrs. in a matter of time.  As things are getting progressively more serious, it comes time to meet the family.  This can be a pretty big deal for a lot of people and can  be a make-it or break-it outing.  The fact of the matter is that some people were born into relatively normal families, but those people are few are far between.  For the rest of us, we’ve got some strange relatives that will take some getting used to.  There are some tips that you can take into consideration before you introduce your significant other to your family.

The first thing that you will want to do is to prep your partner.  You will want to give them a pretty good idea of who to talk to and who to stay away from.  Give them a heads up that Auntie Marie is going to slobber all over their face with kisses galore or that Uncle Dick will try to tackle them because he used to play football in his younger years.   If there are any family issues going on at the time, make sure they know at least a little bit about it so that they know what topics to try and avoid.  You might encourage them to get to know certain family members that they would probably get along with better.  It is also important to prep your family on  your significant other so that they don’t make a scene or make anything too awkward.  Following these prep steps can help you to make sure that everything runs smoothly and that you don’t run into any unforeseen problems.

No Goodnight Kiss?

Tuesday, November 9th, 2010

So you just went on a date with the perfect guy.  He picked you up at your house, opened doors for you and escorted you everywhere you went.  He made a romantic dinner and paid for ice cream after.  He gave you his undivided attention and made frequent eye contact throughout the night.  You had stimulating conversation throughout the night and talked about your dreams and passions.  As he was driving you home you thought for sure this was it, you are going to get a kiss and be swept off your feet.  He walks you to the door, gives you a quick hug and then promptly goes back to his car.  You kind of stand there still a bit dazed because you thought a kiss was for sure in the works.  As you go into your house you start to analyze the night and see where you went wrong. Did he not like you?  Was he just being nice?  All sorts of questions start going through your mind and you wonder if you just got the “kiss-off”.

Dating experts have actually identified a kiss-less first date as a very good sign of a potential relationship.  When he doesn’t kiss you on the first date it could mean a number of things.  First of all, it means he respects you and wants to wait til the timing is right.  Maybe he just wants you plan out a first kiss like they have in the movies.  It also means that he probably isn’t kissing all of his other first dates which means he is keeping things classy.  That way you know that his kisses actually do mean something when he gives them out.  He may not kiss you til the third or fourth date so look for other signs of attraction in the meantime.