Archive for the ‘Dating Tips’ Category

Disclosing Difficult Details in Dating

Tuesday, November 9th, 2010

When you meet someone and fall in love, there is a progression of communication and information that flows between the two of you.  At first, everything is blissful and superficial.  You are both a bit mysterious to each other and you only ask deep questions when the time seems right.  As you continue to date you will find that you get over the formal questions pretty quick and all that is left are the unique things that shape who you are.  There are other details about your past and your family that should eventually come out in order to establish an honest and open relationship.  One of the big things that you will eventually have to talk about is that of your family.

While telling your significant other the names of your family members and how many siblings you have may not be a hard task, telling them family issues may not be as easy.  For instance, if your family was involved in an investment scam  and they are going through a bankruptcy and losing their house,  you may not just pop that out over casual conversation.  It is something personal and may be hard to talk about because you care about the people that are involved.  Just remember that the person you are dating legitimately cares about you and can help you to deal with the issues at hand.

Another thing that might be hard to explain is that of mental illness in the family.    You might want to prep your companion before you actually go visit your family so that they know what to expect. Try to look at your family through a stranger’s eyes and see what they might see when coming in.  Also, if there have been any deaths in your immediate family then you should definitely let your significant other know about it before they go to meet your family and ask some innocently awkward questions.  All of these things can help when you are disclosing difficult details about your family.

No Goodnight Kiss?

Tuesday, November 9th, 2010

So you just went on a date with the perfect guy.  He picked you up at your house, opened doors for you and escorted you everywhere you went.  He made a romantic dinner and paid for ice cream after.  He gave you his undivided attention and made frequent eye contact throughout the night.  You had stimulating conversation throughout the night and talked about your dreams and passions.  As he was driving you home you thought for sure this was it, you are going to get a kiss and be swept off your feet.  He walks you to the door, gives you a quick hug and then promptly goes back to his car.  You kind of stand there still a bit dazed because you thought a kiss was for sure in the works.  As you go into your house you start to analyze the night and see where you went wrong. Did he not like you?  Was he just being nice?  All sorts of questions start going through your mind and you wonder if you just got the “kiss-off”.

Dating experts have actually identified a kiss-less first date as a very good sign of a potential relationship.  When he doesn’t kiss you on the first date it could mean a number of things.  First of all, it means he respects you and wants to wait til the timing is right.  Maybe he just wants you plan out a first kiss like they have in the movies.  It also means that he probably isn’t kissing all of his other first dates which means he is keeping things classy.  That way you know that his kisses actually do mean something when he gives them out.  He may not kiss you til the third or fourth date so look for other signs of attraction in the meantime.

Dating Hairstyles For Men

Friday, October 15th, 2010

So you’ve asked out that girl that you’ve been eying for weeks, even months.  Finally got up the courage and now you have a date with the most beautiful girl you’ve ever seen.  Naturally, you want to put your best foot forward.  You been planning this perfect date for ages so you know exactly what you are going to do.  You are going to pick her up  on your scooter, take her to a Mongolian Barbecue, and then use your Google app  on your phone to show her constellations in the sky.  It’s perfect.  You have you favorite t-shirt with the picture of the Rambo  T-Rex just waiting in your closet for this special occasion.  You have planned out everything except for one crucial element… your hair!  You’ve been so used to wearing a baseball cap every single day of your life that you forget that this is a date that you might want to get ready for. Here are some different hair styles for men that can either make or break your date.

Feaux hawk.  This is a date killer.  Unless you are going to a UFC fight and your name is Brock Lesnar, then don’t opt for the Feaux hawk.  It’s outdated and it looks just plain terrible.  This is for the high school kids that are trying to look tough and are still bleaching their hair.

Flip in the front.  Not a bad choice, but still a little outdated.  A lot of guys will flip their hair up in the front to give it some sort of style, only because they don’t know what else to do.  While this isn’t the most impressive hairdo, it will usually pass in most girl’s eyes.

Messy, but done up.  Girls love this.  They want a rough and tough guy who doesn’t seem to care too much about his appearance but still manages to pull it off and look great.  If you can pull off the messy look then you are in business.

Dating Vs. Hanging Out

Friday, October 15th, 2010

If you are young and single then you have probable heard both the term “dating” as well as the term “hanging out”.  While many people consider them to be the same thing, they actually do have some distinct differences.  Here is a simple article to help you see the differences and what you can do to make your relationship more meaningful.

Let me pose a situation to you and see if it sounds familiar.  You get invited to a party by some friends and once there you find that there are a lot of really cool people there.  You and your buddies are stoked about all of the potential cute girls that are there so you start making the rounds.  By the time the party is over you have a ton of new phone numbers.  Through the course of the week you invite these different groups of girls to come over and spend some time to get to know you all better.  The girls come over and you have a ton of fun.  You start to kind of like one of the girls in the group and whenever that entire group comes over you kind of start to pair off.    The relationship starts getting physical, but the only time you really see this girl is when her and all of her friends come over to hang out.  While you have seen the beginnings of a potential relationship, it is still just hanging out.  You will never be able to properly move it into a healthy relationship stage until you start taking her out on dates.

Dating is the act of calling a girl up, reserving her for a night, and giving her your best for an entire night.  It shows her that you have legitimate interest and that she is not just some booty call.  It also shows that you respect her and could see it going somewhere serious.  Once you start realizing the differences between dating and hanging out you can better start courting the girls you are really interested in.

How To Ensure A Good Date

Friday, October 15th, 2010

Some people have innate fears of dating and feel like they they are awkward when they get put into a potentially romantic situation.  If you feel this way sometimes then don’t get discouraged, it is very common. Many people have trouble being themselves when they have the added pressure of trying to impress someone that they could potentially date and marry.  There are a few things you can do, however, to help make sure that all of your dates are positive experiences.

The first thing you need to do is to not put too much pressure on yourself.  You may think that the person you are going out with is the love of your life and if you don’t make it work then you will never actually be happy in your love life.  This is just plain false.  There are a lot of people that you are compatible with and that could potentially make you very happy so don’t put the added stress of feeling like you can’t blow it.  If you can reduce the pressure on your shoulders then it will help you to have more confidence to just be yourself on the date.

The second major tip to having a good date is to smile a lot!  People love being around other people who are happy.  Even if you aren’t totally sure if you are interested in the other person, you can avoid a lot of potentially awkward situations by just learning to smile and help the other person relax.  Try to have a good time no matter what the situation or the activity.  If you aren’t interested in your date then you can still smile and be happy without leading the other person on.

Lastly,  try to add to the conversation.  No matter if you are intimidated or not that interested, it still is polite to add to the conversation so that the night still runs smoothly.