Posts Tagged ‘Dating Tips’

No Goodnight Kiss?

Tuesday, November 9th, 2010

So you just went on a date with the perfect guy.  He picked you up at your house, opened doors for you and escorted you everywhere you went.  He made a romantic dinner and paid for ice cream after.  He gave you his undivided attention and made frequent eye contact throughout the night.  You had stimulating conversation throughout the night and talked about your dreams and passions.  As he was driving you home you thought for sure this was it, you are going to get a kiss and be swept off your feet.  He walks you to the door, gives you a quick hug and then promptly goes back to his car.  You kind of stand there still a bit dazed because you thought a kiss was for sure in the works.  As you go into your house you start to analyze the night and see where you went wrong. Did he not like you?  Was he just being nice?  All sorts of questions start going through your mind and you wonder if you just got the “kiss-off”.

Dating experts have actually identified a kiss-less first date as a very good sign of a potential relationship.  When he doesn’t kiss you on the first date it could mean a number of things.  First of all, it means he respects you and wants to wait til the timing is right.  Maybe he just wants you plan out a first kiss like they have in the movies.  It also means that he probably isn’t kissing all of his other first dates which means he is keeping things classy.  That way you know that his kisses actually do mean something when he gives them out.  He may not kiss you til the third or fourth date so look for other signs of attraction in the meantime.

Taking Risks In Dating

Friday, October 1st, 2010

Dating is all about taking risks.  If you can master this art then you might as well go hit Wall Street because you will be able to make a fortune leveraging risks and knowing when to take them.  If you are a smart dater then you have realized that the only way to progress a relationship is to take certain risks that could either blow up in your face or be the most romantic thing the girl has ever experienced.  In order to take these risks you need to be able to quickly leverage the pros and the cons of the situation.  Here is a situation that might sound familiar and the things that you should consider doing if you are faced with this same thing.

  1. The Initial Approach.  First meeting a girl is never easy.  There are so many variables in the situation.  Are you going to look creepy?  Is she going to talk to you or flat out reject you?  What do you say to her to start the conversation without looking stupid?  First impressions are always so important so you don’t want to totally screw things up.  As far as taking risks in this category, you should do it 90% of the time.  There are some exceptions, for instance if the girl you like is in one of your classes every single day then you may want to think twice about approaching her in the library and making yourself look stupid and have to face her every day for the next nine months in class.  But if it is a girl that you rarely see, or have only seen for the first time then just remember that you literally have nothing to lose.  If you she says no then you are right back where you were when you started, but if she says yes then you are infinitely more empowered.

When To Plan The First Kiss

Thursday, September 23rd, 2010

Dating and kissing go hand in hand.  Or at least we hope they will.  The fact of the matter is that kissing comes more naturally for some of us than it does for others.  There are too many people these days who take kissing lightly and will kiss each and every date that they go out with.  This can lead to confusion and affection that is coming too soon and too often.  Kisses shouldn’t be handed out like pretzels, they should mean something.  If you can remember that, you are going to have much more meaningful dating experiences.

One good general rule to follow when dating is to wait until the third date (or hangout).  You don’t necessarily have to go on three individual dates, but just three different times that you have either spent significant alone time together and had a chance to really get to know each other.  This is important, because if you start kissing too early then you both will quickly find out that the entire relationship is based off of physical desires and there may not be any type of emotional or personal commitment involved.  You want to steer clear of this because this usually only leads to problems later on.  Waiting until the third date shows your partner that you care more about them as a person than you do the physical interaction.

Another reason to wait until the third date is so that you can plan something special.  You don’t necessarily have to plan the exact time or way you are going to kiss her.  But plan a date that she won’t forget where you can kiss her somewhere more romantic than a couch cushion or a doorstep.  She will thank you for this kind of thoughtfulness later on down the road, especially if things start to click and really work out.

Pick-Up Lines 101

Friday, August 27th, 2010

First rule of pick up lines: don’t ever use them.  They are tactless, stupid, and never a turn on.  They can be used with friends or with girls you never want to date in order to get a laugh, but you will never impress a girl with a pick up line I promise you that.  Pick up lines these days are much more subtle and if you are good enough then they won’t even be recognized as pickup lines until after the contact has been made and digits have been handed over.  Pick up lines can just be used as a term for “the first thing you say to a gorgeous woman you have never met before”.  In the 21st century there are few tips that you can take into consideration to help you get that first date secured.

First of all, approach her with something other than the obvious.  Girls love it when a guy can be playful and not take himself too seriously.  If you immediately approach a girl and ask her what classes she has, who is in her family, and what her hobbies and interests are, you are going to walk away empty handed.  I mean, how boring is that?  No creativity in the approach means no creativity in the relationship.  First impressions are usually really big with people so you will need to think quickly and have something witty to say that will catch her off guard.  Try going up to a girl in the library and asking her where they keep the animals.

Another good tip is to just make sure you confidently approach someone.  The longer you stand around nervously looking at the girl you want to approach, the more you are leaning towards creepy.  If you see a cute girl then just go all out and approach her right off the bat.  The more time you waste sulking around, the less confident you will seem.  Also, even if she is gorgeous, pretend like it is no big deal that you two are talking.  Act interested but not overly interested and it will keep her wanting more.

The After Date Text

Saturday, August 14th, 2010

In our culture today, there are a few things that have become a standard as technology has been enhanced.  One of these things it the “after date text”.  If you are  bit older you may never heard of it, but if you are a bit younger than you most definitely heard of it and you know how important it is.  The idea is simple.  In today’s world, people text each other.  A lot.  While this has kind of ruined normal communication between human beings, it can also be a way to express your feelings without feeling sheepish or confrontational.  The way it applies to dating is that when you have a really good date with a person, you can send an after date text to let them know that you really did have a good time and that you would like to do it again. This is the ultimate in clues after a date for a guy to know he did alright.

The etiquette of the after date text goes like this.  The girl is supposed to send it.  This is a way for a girl to show her appreciation for the date that just happened.  More than likely the guy asked her out, planned a date, payed for it, and the least that the girl can do is just thank him after the date.  When you send the after date text it means that you had a really good time and that you would like to do it again.  If the date was horrible then by all means don’t bother sending it.  But if the date was good then please send it!  Guys are always a bit concerned after dates if it went well and if the girl had fun.  This is a way you can put his fears to rest and let him know it was a great time.

Guys, don’t send the after date text.  Even if you had a ton of fun and really wan to talk to her, refrain from sending it or you will look desperate.  Just wait til late the next day to say anything so you keep your cool.