Posts Tagged ‘first impressions’

Online Dating Polite Rejection

Thursday, October 14th, 2010

Online dating and polite rejection

It is never a nice thing to have to do but rejection is something that you are going to have to come to terms with when you start your quest with online dating to find a potential new partner. There will be people talking to you and asking you for dates that you might not like the look of or having nothing in common with and although rejection might sound like a nasty word, there are ways in which you can politely say no without having to hurt anyone’s feelings.

You will find that most online dating sites will have a section on the message or email board when you can politely decline an invitation but although this might sound like an easy way out, it is best to avoid using these and opt for sending a personally written message stating why you are going to have to decline. Just think of how hurt that you would feel if someone sent you a pre-saved rejection notice on the site – it would leave you feeling as if you were not even worth the time to write a message for so don’t make others feel like this.

It is always best to send a reply rather than ignore the message or invitation completely. Ignoring it will just make you come across as very rude and could give you a bad name with other potential daters on the site. No one wants to be known as the “ignorer” so always send a polite message clearly stating that you are not interested and the reasons why. Without this, it might just sound as if you are playing hard to get and could still be hounded.

Spark Interest With the Way you Dress

Friday, August 27th, 2010

Your first impression with a person of the opposite sex will tell a lot about how your future relationships with them will be.  If you have a bad first impression of somebody, you probably won’t go out with them or even try to pursue anything.  If you have a great first impression, you may be really into them and more interested than you might normally have been.  While relationships hopefully go beyond the shallowness of looks and dress, it can’t hurt to try and better your chances by looking great the first time you go out with someone.

When you go to meet your date and pick them up, you should be looking good.  This doesn’t mean that you always have to wear a button up shirt and jeans, but you need to be wearing clothes that accent your good features.  Also, you will want to make sure that your dress also matches the event you are doing.  If you are going to a concert or some kind of performance then you will want to be a little more dressed up.  Try wearing a blazer and no tie, or something else classy like that.  You could also do a nice button up shirt, but make sure the shirt is fitted.  You don’t want to look like you are wearing a cloud around your upper body.  If you are doing something a little more fun and adventurous then maybe go for jeans, a nice t-shirt (and please don’t wear those Affliction t-shirts; they are just screaming “tool”) that shows off your biceps.  If you feel a little bit more casual because of how you are dressed, it could help the entire night to be a little more comfortable.

Next, make sure you have some killer kicks on, no matter what the occasion.  Girls love a guy that has good taste in shoes.  Wear something that adds to your wardrobe but isn’t too flashy.  Just remember not to wear an old worn out pair of shoes or they will certainly be noticed, but in the wrong way.