Posts Tagged ‘online dating’

Introducing Your Date To Your Family

Tuesday, November 9th, 2010

So you set up an online profile and gave the internet Gods a chance to set you up with the perfect match.  Surprisingly enough, it worked and you started dating a wonderful girl who could end up being your Mrs. in a matter of time.  As things are getting progressively more serious, it comes time to meet the family.  This can be a pretty big deal for a lot of people and can  be a make-it or break-it outing.  The fact of the matter is that some people were born into relatively normal families, but those people are few are far between.  For the rest of us, we’ve got some strange relatives that will take some getting used to.  There are some tips that you can take into consideration before you introduce your significant other to your family.

The first thing that you will want to do is to prep your partner.  You will want to give them a pretty good idea of who to talk to and who to stay away from.  Give them a heads up that Auntie Marie is going to slobber all over their face with kisses galore or that Uncle Dick will try to tackle them because he used to play football in his younger years.   If there are any family issues going on at the time, make sure they know at least a little bit about it so that they know what topics to try and avoid.  You might encourage them to get to know certain family members that they would probably get along with better.  It is also important to prep your family on  your significant other so that they don’t make a scene or make anything too awkward.  Following these prep steps can help you to make sure that everything runs smoothly and that you don’t run into any unforeseen problems.

Online Dating Polite Rejection

Thursday, October 14th, 2010

Online dating and polite rejection

It is never a nice thing to have to do but rejection is something that you are going to have to come to terms with when you start your quest with online dating to find a potential new partner. There will be people talking to you and asking you for dates that you might not like the look of or having nothing in common with and although rejection might sound like a nasty word, there are ways in which you can politely say no without having to hurt anyone’s feelings.

You will find that most online dating sites will have a section on the message or email board when you can politely decline an invitation but although this might sound like an easy way out, it is best to avoid using these and opt for sending a personally written message stating why you are going to have to decline. Just think of how hurt that you would feel if someone sent you a pre-saved rejection notice on the site – it would leave you feeling as if you were not even worth the time to write a message for so don’t make others feel like this.

It is always best to send a reply rather than ignore the message or invitation completely. Ignoring it will just make you come across as very rude and could give you a bad name with other potential daters on the site. No one wants to be known as the “ignorer” so always send a polite message clearly stating that you are not interested and the reasons why. Without this, it might just sound as if you are playing hard to get and could still be hounded.

Effectively Using Online Dating Sites

Tuesday, August 10th, 2010

When people first get into online dating they usually end up making a lot of mistakes.  They forget that online dating is very similar to other dating techniques and you can’t do too much too fast.  There are always going to be windows of opportunity and you need to take advantage of them when they come but don’t crush them.  Here is a list of some common pitfalls that new online dating users will fall into.

The first mistake that people make when they are new to online dating is that they will try to legitimately meet more than three people a week.  This could be because all of a sudden you have a ton of information available to you and you are super excited or maybe you are just trying to make up for lost time.  Whatever the reason, you need to slow it down a bit.  Three dates a week with new people is a great place to start when getting into online dating.  If you are going on multiple dates every single day then you are going to burn yourself up pretty quick.

The second mistake is when men see a bunch of different women they like and then create a single email that they can mass send to all of these potential women.  While this may seem like the easiest way to get word out to all of these women that you are interested, they will easily see through the bull crap and know that it was a mass email.  Each message you send to these women needs to be unique and talk about what it was in their profiles that got you interested.

The last mistake we will talk about is when people expect instant success from online dating.  This just doesn’t happen.  With any good thing, you have to work at it to really have success.  Take the time to make each relationship meaningful and take a step back every so often so you don’t get burned out.